Abandoning my 2 year old daughter.

[THCTemplar]

Due to the constant struggle with my wife and the mother of my child I feel the only choice I have left is suicide. Been through 4 break ups now. Everything will go good for a year and then my wife will leave me again and get another restraining order to force me to leave and not take the car. Never been abusive. I miss my daughter so much this time. I've only been gone a month this time and it's too long. I am ready to go but I feel that I don't have the right to die because my daughter needs me and I love her.

 

[Nem]

Due to the constant struggle with my wife and the mother of my child I feel the only choice I have left is suicide. Been through 4 break ups now. Everything will go good for a year and then my wife will leave me again and get another restraining order to force me to leave and not take the car. Never been abusive. I miss my daughter so much this time. I've only been gone a month this time and it's too long. I am ready to go but I feel that I don't have the right to die because my daughter needs me and I love her.

Damn that sucks! You can't see your daughter at all? Sorry to hear you have a psycho ex

 

[THCTemplar]

She brought her to see me once a few weeks ago. Still I'm kicked out of the house and I can't go forward in life without my family. My few other loves ones keep telling me to suck it up and move on. I cannot. Tried. Over and over.

 

[Nem]

What happened to get kicked out of the house?

 

[THCTemplar]

She went and got a restraining order. This has happened 4 times now so I don't even bother to question the justification. I spent too much money on my hobby, even though all bills were paid on time. Idk what the reason is. Last time I went in to the hearing and cross examined her for evidence and the judge didn't even care. No evidence required. Then she makes me do what she wants and then drops the orders. I love her. I can't leave her. But I can't keep doing this over and over being cast out every year. The police treat me like I'm a dangerous person and I have not done anything to deserve it. Funny thing is the only person in dangerous to is me. I try to imagine all I have to do is stick my gun in my mouth and pull and it's over...and I feel good until I remember that my baby will be left without a parent and the money I could provide.

 

[Jean Améry]

Seems like you got a rough deal. Relationships can end very badly and if there are children involved the misery is compounded.

I agree with you: your daughter needs you and you need to stick around for her. Imo it's the only valid moral reason against suicide: bringing children into this world implies you can't leave untill they're adults who can take care of themselves.

The best of luck to you and your daughter.

 

[Brick In The Wall]

This is eerily similar to what I'm going through right now. I definitely feel your pain brother. I've already created a full 48 hour SN kit and I'm just sort of waiting to see how it all plays out.

 

[Final Escape]

Don't do it, don't give up. Somehow u have to find a way to carry on and remain here for when your daughter is old enough and u can explain to her what really happened. In the meantime it might indeed be best to not continue to attempt to make this impossible relationship work when it is clearly not. Maybe there is a way u can accept this situation for the time being and move forward for now. One day at a time.

 

[WhiteDespair]

What is the "hobby" on which you spent too much money?

 

[THCTemplar]

I bought too many parts and accessories for my rifle. Yeah I got fed up ginding and the shifts and spent a couple Grand on me in a couple months. I shouldn't have but it's not a restraining order offense. Not like I threatened someone or was acting crazy. I just really cannot sort this out in my head but I know that I cannot ensure it much more. Would be my second divorce. My best friend of 14 years. I'm 37. I cannot just start yet another family and start over. My friends and relatives act like I have a some chance to leave this situation and build something. If my marriage is dead than deep in my heart I really feel I should die with it. I cannot move forward from this. I've tried to leave this woman three times. I can't leave them. There is only one way out from this fucking prison.

What is the "hobby" on which you spent too much money?

I was building a rifle.

 

[Polka]

How often are childrens minds poisoned by the ex towards the father?

Men get screwed by marriage and divorce now. It's all on youtube how anti male the "family" court system is.

Women initiate 70% of divorces?

It's a war. Women are pushed into male sexual polarity and vice versa.

And then the there is the trans children thing...

 

[Stan]

How often are childrens minds poisoned by the ex towards the father?

sadly too many and in the UK, there are no laws to protect the father.

 

[Polka]

are there laws in any European country or America, Commonwealth to protect the Father?

 

[PaYo]

Leave her and fight for the child, can you do that? Read about man rights activist lawyers. Maybe they will help you. Find someone pro man. Because woman has bigger right in rising kids what is society bias.

Watch movie the red pill, its about man in your sitiation. And act. Go to the court and fight for your kid. And leave this psychotic bitch, take the daughter with you, and if you want to win the daughter you have to video tape her. Coz you have small chances, to tak the daugher without it.

 

[THCTemplar]

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How often are childrens minds poisoned by the ex towards the father?

Men get screwed by marriage and divorce now. It's all on youtube how anti male the "family" court system is.

Women initiate 70% of divorces?

It's a war. Women are pushed into male sexual polarity and vice versa.

And then the there is the trans children thing...

I'm not saying I didn't do anything wrong. But I have not done something to deserve these repeated restraining orders every year when she gets fed up with me. No matter who is right or wrong. I don't want to pour every dirty detail of our relationship out but would be willing to talk PM. I have never abused her. Never hurt her. I have some things that may have been emotionally abusive but we're not intentional. I have been both physically and emotionally abused by her in tbe past. Now all this sounds very bad but there is so much good in this toxic relationship. My head is not clear but I do know I've been in this cycle for 4 years. Been rendered homeless twice and then everytime it takes between 6 and 14 days to get in a low income apartment because I do work and I can take care of myself. Quit my job at Delmar Gardens because I was on the streets and had to move away to survive. Moves 90 miles to pilot knob MO where my father lives and got my own place and new job. I was saving for a car. Month later she wanted me to come home. I lost my job at Bethesda meadow because I was on the streets again a year later with another restraining order and had to move away to survive. Moved to the same place. Got a job at cabinet master's and McDonald's to get on my feet bc the judge keeps giving her our mutual car. I start to get enough for a car and she wants me to come home. Drops the order again and calls off the divorce. Now I'm out the fourth time. If I'm so awful and dangerous idk why she keeps having me come back to her? Each time I return, we seem to do even better and grow until the next time things get bad. This does not even include the 14 years of friendship. I was in the friend zone with my wife for 12 years. Lmao. I think my wife may be a little crazy herself. She is contacting me right now about giving her money while I'm homeless and don't have a car. My boss has held my job for me working security but I'm 90 miles away.
I could screenshot the conversation or her contacting me asking for money everyday and telling me what a piece of shit I am in every sentence.

 

[Polka]

Thanks to the internet a lot more men are waking up to gynocentricism.

 

[WhiteDespair]

Some men's rights advocates are bunches of cunts, or feminists with dangley-bits, or wastes of time, or pejoratives.

I will say this:

If current me could go back in time, go to my childhood house, hop the fence, enter through the unlocked door my unlocked windows, pet my good girl golden, good girl calico and good girl blackie, reminisce about the posters and toys I used to have, go to the kitchen, grab the dull chef's knife, enter her room and proceed to flay that fucking cunt to death so I'd live with my Father instead of her... I think you understand.

 

[Polka]

All the signs are it's getting worse for men and children. Women hit the wall and wonder what the hell happened. They all loose out and evil wins.

 

[tony.end]

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I'm not saying I didn't do anything wrong. But I have not done something to deserve these repeated restraining orders every year when she gets fed up with me. No matter who is right or wrong. I don't want to pour every dirty detail of our relationship out but would be willing to talk PM. I have never abused her. Never hurt her. I have some things that may have been emotionally abusive but we're not intentional. I have been both physically and emotionally abused by her in tbe past. Now all this sounds very bad but there is so much good in this toxic relationship. My head is not clear but I do know I've been in this cycle for 4 years. Been rendered homeless twice and then everytime it takes between 6 and 14 days to get in a low income apartment because I do work and I can take care of myself. Quit my job at Delmar Gardens because I was on the streets and had to move away to survive. Moves 90 miles to pilot knob MO where my father lives and got my own place and new job. I was saving for a car. Month later she wanted me to come home. I lost my job at Bethesda meadow because I was on the streets again a year later with another restraining order and had to move away to survive. Moved to the same place. Got a job at cabinet master's and McDonald's to get on my feet bc the judge keeps giving her our mutual car. I start to get enough for a car and she wants me to come home. Drops the order again and calls off the divorce. Now I'm out the fourth time. If I'm so awful and dangerous idk why she keeps having me come back to her? Each time I return, we seem to do even better and grow until the next time things get bad. This does not even include the 14 years of friendship. I was in the friend zone with my wife for 12 years. Lmao. I think my wife may be a little crazy herself. She is contacting me right now about giving her money while I'm homeless and don't have a car. My boss has held my job for me working security but I'm 90 miles away.
I could screenshot the conversation or her contacting me asking for money everyday and telling me what a piece of shit I am in every sentence.

Hi, i'm sorry you're going through all this. There's not much help i can give you for I have not much experience with this sort of things, but I will tell you this. I guess try to get as much concrete evidence as possible of her wrongdoings and stack it up so you have some material to show a hypothetical lawyer. And most importantly, hang on man. And try to not do bullshit since I fear they'll try to turn any wrong move you make against you.
Good luck :)

 

[THCTemplar]

Thank you all for the comments. I do not intend to come here to whine or play victim. I am simply lost in a fog.

 

[Scooby-Doo]

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I'm not saying I didn't do anything wrong. But I have not done something to deserve these repeated restraining orders every year when she gets fed up with me. No matter who is right or wrong. I don't want to pour every dirty detail of our relationship out but would be willing to talk PM. I have never abused her. Never hurt her. I have some things that may have been emotionally abusive but we're not intentional. I have been both physically and emotionally abused by her in tbe past. Now all this sounds very bad but there is so much good in this toxic relationship. My head is not clear but I do know I've been in this cycle for 4 years. Been rendered homeless twice and then everytime it takes between 6 and 14 days to get in a low income apartment because I do work and I can take care of myself. Quit my job at Delmar Gardens because I was on the streets and had to move away to survive. Moves 90 miles to pilot knob MO where my father lives and got my own place and new job. I was saving for a car. Month later she wanted me to come home. I lost my job at Bethesda meadow because I was on the streets again a year later with another restraining order and had to move away to survive. Moved to the same place. Got a job at cabinet master's and McDonald's to get on my feet bc the judge keeps giving her our mutual car. I start to get enough for a car and she wants me to come home. Drops the order again and calls off the divorce. Now I'm out the fourth time. If I'm so awful and dangerous idk why she keeps having me come back to her? Each time I return, we seem to do even better and grow until the next time things get bad. This does not even include the 14 years of friendship. I was in the friend zone with my wife for 12 years. Lmao. I think my wife may be a little crazy herself. She is contacting me right now about giving her money while I'm homeless and don't have a car. My boss has held my job for me working security but I'm 90 miles away.
I could screenshot the conversation or her contacting me asking for money everyday and telling me what a piece of shit I am in every sentence.

You've gone through hell and back with this lady. How on earth are you supposed to provide when she kicks you onto streets which ruins your job and career? She must know what she's doing to you and she expects you to give her money? As an outsider looking in, if she softens again and your on good terms with her. You should try to have a friendship relationship with her. It's probably going to be difficult to do but you've gone through hell 3 times and it ends the same. You had a good friendship for years, whether you both can go back to that, I don't know but it's worth a try if you get the chance. I think it's ridiculous your in this mess and she pulls all the strings. In my honest opinion she sounds like a piece of shit not you.

 

[truthseeker]

Terrible situation. I empathize, my daughter was 4 when the nightmare started. You are welcome to PM if you like. So sorry for you.

 

[THCTemplar]

 

[DepressionsAHo]

I get that your angry at your ex but I dont think it's right to include her in your profile picture if that is you two. Its really messed up if someone did an image search of that picture and have it link back to here. Please consider changing it

 

[Morphinekiss]

She sounds like a manipulative bitch, especially after reading the texts. At this point I would focus on getting your life together and fighting for some sort of custody of your child.
Also, if she currently has a restraining order against you why is she contacting you? I'd read the print, that usually violates the terms of the agreement, and unless the court says you have to pay child support from your ssi, she isn't owed shit and shouldn't be contacting you. I know you want to provide for you child, but sometimes you have to play the game for a better outcome.

 

[MeltingHeart]

Due to the constant struggle with my wife and the mother of my child I feel the only choice I have left is suicide. Been through 4 break ups now. Everything will go good for a year and then my wife will leave me again and get another restraining order to force me to leave and not take the car. Never been abusive. I miss my daughter so much this time. I've only been gone a month this time and it's too long. I am ready to go but I feel that I don't have the right to die because my daughter needs me and I love her.

Sounds like she needs the restraining order - not you! Could you afford a lawyer? Can't see how she can get that order on you wth no proof you have done anything wrong & to prevent you seeing yr own daughter is the lowest of the low! It's not fair on you but also not fair on the kid either! Has she even cnsidered that? Hope it's not out of place to say but you sound like u would be better off without her (as long as u could still have time with yr kid). Sorry for yr woes.

 

[THCTemplar]

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I get that your angry at your ex but I dont think it's right to include her in your profile picture if that is you two. Its really messed up if someone did an image search of that picture and have it link back to here. Please consider changing it

Not really angry at her. I don't want to live without them. I can't. I tried. But going back and forth like this. I need out. I've been thinking hard and long with many different plans for a long time. So what if they find the picture. I didn't put that up out of spite. I love my wife and child in the picture. We're still married.

 

[WhiteDespair]

For what reasons have you not said, "Shut the fuck up. I'm not sending you a dime. If you want money so badly, go stand on a street corner! You are getting NOTHING else from me."

There are quite a few women whose looks would be improved by an opaque plastic bag tightly secured over their heads.

Pretty cool that you can build rifles.

 

[MeltingHeart]

Sounds like she needs the restraining order - not you! Could you afford a lawyer? Can't see how she can get that order on you wth no proof you have done anything wrong & to prevent you seeing yr own daughter is the lowest of the low! It's not fair on you but also not fair on the kid either! Has she even cnsidered that? Hope it's not out of place to say but you sound like u would be better off without her (as long as u could still have time with yr kid). Sorry for yr woes.

Just to add I swiftly wrote this before seeing all the other replies saying similar things! I should have checked first & u prob have enough replies in a similar vein now

 

[THCTemplar]

She can get the order without proof easy. The first time she used me crying as a reason. The second time I had gone to the hospital for psychological reasons twice. I am law abiding so in the U.S. I own guns. I'm peaceful and safe but just bringing that up is enough. This time I didn't even make it to the hearing to defend myself but the last time this happened 15 months ago I did go to the hearing to fight but during the hearing I cross examined her claims against me and the judge still granted it. My wife told me later after we hooked up I made.the judge mad.because I looked under the influence of marijuana which I admit, I was.

Sounds like she needs the restraining order - not you! Could you afford a lawyer? Can't see how she can get that order on you wth no proof you have done anything wrong & to prevent you seeing yr own daughter is the lowest of the low! It's not fair on you but also not fair on the kid either! Has she even cnsidered that? Hope it's not out of place to say but you sound like u would be better off without her (as long as u could still have time with yr kid). Sorry for yr woes.
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