Abandoned by a friend here

[CallmeWill4719]

Anyone else get incredibly unlucky with making a "friend" here but later be abandoned by them? Been trying to move on but it's still unbelievable it happened. I have my self-loathing like anybody else but it's a whole different level when cutting off all contact for no reason.

 

[Namelesa]

I am so sorry. Being abandoned to me is the worst feeling I can have and makes me go further into despair, emptiness, worthlessness and self-hatred. This place may not be the best place to make friends as some of our mental illnesses make it harder to keep friendships intact.

 

[shrizoid]

Anyone else get incredibly unlucky with making a "friend" here but later be abandoned by them? Been trying to move on but it's still unbelievable it happened. I have my self-loathing like anybody else but it's a whole different level when cutting off all contact for no reason.

I've only ever actually made like one real "friend" here but I've talked with many others that just kinda "abandoned" me or never responded again, tbf it's unsurprising

 

[Yume Nikki]

Happened to me on reddit, don't worry, your not alone in this feeling.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

Anyone else get incredibly unlucky with making a "friend" here but later be abandoned by them? Been trying to move on but it's still unbelievable it happened. I have my self-loathing like anybody else but it's a whole different level when cutting off all contact for no reason.

That does happen unfortunately, people can have all kinds of reasons to break contact.
I'm sorry it happened to you..

 

[needthebus]

because many people on this site have different issues, it almost certainly was because of those issues and had nothing to do with you, even though it may not feel that way

 

[CallmeWill4719]

I am so sorry. Being abandoned to me is the worst feeling I can have and makes me go further into despair, emptiness, worthlessness and self-hatred. This place may not be the best place to make friends as some of our mental illnesses make it harder to keep friendships intact.

It happens from time to time but when someone I talk with for a very long time, we talked about making a life together and then just abandoning that. That's what I still can't believe.

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

Don't take it too personally, the nature of the internet makes keeping contact with others in the long term difficult, as people can quietly slip away due to issues in their real life demanding their attention, and leave you with no real closure. Even if you hit it off with someone online, a lot of connections are very ephemeral and transient, especially if they have other things going on.

I knew someone online for 5 years and out of nowhere one day they just stopped talking and abandoned all their accounts. Knew their legal name and search them up occasionally to see if their name pops up in an obituary notice, but it never does. To this day I am unsure why they chose to cut contact with everyone online after so many years, but unfortunately this kind of thing does happen, even if you believe you are close friends and your bond is strong.

Did you have contact with them on any other social media or text them? Did they disappear completely on everyone or was it specific to your relationship? It's understandable why you find it so upsetting, with the promises of making a life together, but sadly I think some people (especially an individual in the throes of suicidality who desperately needs comfort) say things in the heat of the moment and don't realize there's a person on the other side of the screen who has an emotional investment in the relationship. It's easier to leave behind a digital relationship than one cultivated in the flesh.

I hope you can make some new friends soon, and hopefully if they needed to take a break from things they'd communicate with you. I know being left hanging really and truly blows.

 

[EternalShore]

I'm sorry to hear about that~ :( Abandonment and ghosting is the absolute worst~ >_< It's unfortunate that people don't even know to be decent people anymore! :( btw, making friends here is risky due to the ever-present threat of ctb, but social connection is needed in some way, shape, or form definitely~ I wish you the best in trying to make new friendships, whether it be here or elsewhere~ :) even tho that person was not very good to do that to you, keep in mind that people here do tend to be nicer and more empathetic than elsewhere~ :)

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes. I thought about them just this morning actually. They literally just vanished from here. Don't know whether they CTB, decided to leave the forum or, whether I offended them. It's worse not knowing really. I'm sorry you experienced this.

 

[CallmeWill4719]

Don't take it too personally, the nature of the internet makes keeping contact with others in the long term difficult, as people can quietly slip away due to issues in their real life demanding their attention, and leave you with no real closure. Even if you hit it off with someone online, a lot of connections are very ephemeral and transient, especially if they have other things going on.

I knew someone online for 5 years and out of nowhere one day they just stopped talking and abandoned all their accounts. Knew their legal name and search them up occasionally to see if their name pops up in an obituary notice, but it never does. To this day I am unsure why they chose to cut contact with everyone online after so many years, but unfortunately this kind of thing does happen, even if you believe you are close friends and your bond is strong.

Did you have contact with them on any other social media or text them? Did they disappear completely on everyone or was it specific to your relationship? It's understandable why you find it so upsetting, with the promises of making a life together, but sadly I think some people (especially an individual in the throes of suicidality who desperately needs comfort) say things in the heat of the moment and don't realize there's a person on the other side of the screen who has an emotional investment in the relationship. It's easier to leave behind a digital relationship than one cultivated in the flesh.

I hope you can make some new friends soon, and hopefully if they needed to take a break from things they'd communicate with you. I know being left hanging really and truly blows.

Wow I'm so sorry to read this. I have a "first name" but honestly I'm not sure it was even their name. Losing that friend made me realize how much I really didn't know him at all. I know I'm "better off" like he said because it didn't take long at all to find someone who treats me so much better but it still sucks. Hate so much that others relate to this horrible feeling.