Cashewmilk
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- Mar 10, 2020
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I've been wanting to ask this question for a while online. I know in our society and culture it's always better to be honest and truthful and loyal, and trustworthy, even deep down or behind closed doors. To me it seems like most people are that way. But I don't know? Because the thing is, I am this way most of the time. I have always been this way, and I can't help it, I always have to be straight up and tell the truth especially about myself to others (most of the time I will keep mean or criticizing comments to myself or bad thoughts to myself in certain situations when it's appropriate). The reason I wonder is because of my sister, and certain people I've met as a younger person. Growing up together, she has always lied about certain things to people, and even as teenagers she would make up entire lies and stories, and even lied about her name sometimes. She told me that this is normal and everyone actually does it, everyone lies. But how? It seems so hard to keep up with a lie like that all the time. Just about little things like your ethnicity, or family, career, school, different experiences with many things, how much money you have etc. I've even met people who over exaggerate or completely fabricate stories of how they're super rich...What's the point? I've always just told the truth and was honest about it, if it was safe to do so of course. I only ever lie for a good reason, like hiding details that could shame my family (like being a suicidal drug addicted former prostitute), or if I was in danger, that's why I usually like to make a fake or alternative account on social media, so I can freely speak the truth about myself and my feelings in support groups, without have reputation or other people's reputations and feelings in the way to worry about. Of course I know everyone has the right to privacy and nobody should feel compelled to tell the whole world every single thing, or intimate or taboo details about their lives, like my taboo lifestyle, I only do it in certain places and forums where it's appropriate and necessary.
I also care a lot about the truth. That's why I'm a big fan of science, and evidence based facts. That's why I became agnostic. But I'm still always skeptical, but that's a whole other topic. My main thoughts were about people and being honest in everyday life. It feels like a chore to make up stuff and keep maintaining it, so I just tell the real truth because it's easiest for me to remember. Even when I do lie, I always end up telling the truth sooner or later. I don't know, are you mostly this way too? Is this common? I really hope so. Because some people make it seem like the majority of people just make up stuff for no reason, like what's the point and what does that do, wouldn't it be better to just be honest so you can get an honest response?
I also care a lot about the truth. That's why I'm a big fan of science, and evidence based facts. That's why I became agnostic. But I'm still always skeptical, but that's a whole other topic. My main thoughts were about people and being honest in everyday life. It feels like a chore to make up stuff and keep maintaining it, so I just tell the real truth because it's easiest for me to remember. Even when I do lie, I always end up telling the truth sooner or later. I don't know, are you mostly this way too? Is this common? I really hope so. Because some people make it seem like the majority of people just make up stuff for no reason, like what's the point and what does that do, wouldn't it be better to just be honest so you can get an honest response?